Get My Ex Back- The Opening Move
One of the main reasons we don’t get back with our Ex is that we continue to act like we did before they fell out with us. We all say we will change and to give it another try but if your personality and general attitude is how it used to be why on earth would they would want to give you a second chance.
We all make the classic mistakes, even thought we all tell ourselves we have to be strong and we will get over it, the moment arrives when we just cant stop ourselves from picking up the phone after one too many drinks to plead once again that we have changed and we should get back together which is the last thing you should be doing if you are serious about getting this person back in your life for good.
If you make these mistakes the good news is with a little help and advice you can completely change the mindset of your ex and very quickly turn the tables and almost have them asking if indeed they have made the correct decision.
How do you do that? I hear you say; well the very first thing we need to set is your mindset. We need to completely throw away the approach you have been using because clearly it isn’t working is it? Never again will you send that text at 11 pm and sit up till 3am waiting for the reply that never comes; never again will you need to constantly drive around past their house checking for any new cars parked thinking the worst.
Your opening move both for your sake as well as theirs is to accept the situation for what it is. You have fallen out for whatever reason so admit this to yourself and more importantly to your partner before you can ever move on. You need to lose something before you can get it back so this is the first step in this process, very calmly say to your ex,
“You know you are right we should move on, things have not been right for a long time so I think it’s the right decision for both of us”
Can you imagine the feeling they now have? You have gone for week’s even months continually pleading your undying love and how much you will change which in all fairness they have heard a dozen times before and here you are now with a completely different approach, one made in a calm measured way and one they have never witnessed before. Suddenly panic now sets in, have you found someone else, why are you saying these things and suddenly you are gaining a little more control and now is the time to play the trump card and hand write a little note just to confirm your feelings that now is the right time to split, to wish them all the very best for the future and to tell them you would just like to thank them for what they have done.
We now have intrigue, doubt and confusion in your ex partners mind but you do have a situation in which you can sit down with them in a different mindset and what you now say and how you say it is the key to getting them back.
T.W Jackson has a great guide which details the exact steps needed to get your ex back, this is just the opening move and is far from a game changer but if you want to learn the next steps please visit the magic of making up.
John Downs is a romantic at heart and is passionate about passing on his vast knowledge of what works and what doesnt in getting back with your partner. get my ex back is a great resource packed with articles and insider tips aimed at giving you the upper hand when trying to get things back on track.
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